I really appreciate you taking the time to give these details. While we do have the ability for you to collect RSVPs for multiple guests in one place, and to ask your guests about allergies/meal choices/restrictions, it is apparent it is not as visible as we would like it to be. We will be taking this under advisement so we can make these features more user friendly.
Completely agree with Jessica! My guests (who are all invited to two events) are seeing their names twice (with no knowledge that one is for the wedding and the other is for the pre-wedding dinner) and they can only RSVP to one of the events (but not both)... major glitch.